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BDSM Dictionary: A-Z BDSM Terms Part- 1
ABDL
ABDL, or adult baby diaper lover, is a specific type of age play where a sub acts in an infantile way. Examples of behaviors subs will adopt include suckling on a bottle or dummy, snuggling with a teddy, and wearing & soiling a diaper.
Aftercare
Just like the name suggests, aftercare is the care partners give each other after a BDSM play session (a.k.a. Scene). Cuddles, massages, drinking plenty of water, enjoying a satisfying dinner, or any other activity that promotes relaxation and connection between the two partners can all be included. We encourage you to do aftercare activities that best fit the play you engaged in. For example, after a heavy impact scene, you may want to complement the intensity with a soft touch and gently apply cream/lotions where impacted. Any good aftercare routine includes calling/checking in on your partner the day after playing. Aftercare is essential after any play session. It is common for partners to experience emotional crashes after playing (see Sub Drop), and aftercare is the best way to prevent this. Learn more about aftercare and BDSM safety in this guide!
Age Play
Play that involves a submissive acting at a younger age and a Dom that takes an authoritative, maternal/paternal role. In this dynamic, Doms tend to be nurturing, while instructing and punishing as they see fit.
Anal Play
Anal Play is exactly what it sounds like any form of play that involves the anus. Anal play can be internal or external. The butthole is very stretchable and full of sensitive nerve endings that make anal play incredibly pleasurable. The ways you can play with the anus are seemingly endless but here are a few favored activities: anal toy play, ass eating, pegging, anal fucking, fisting, & much more. Internal anal play is a fantastic way to pleasure both the prostate and G-spot. There are plenty of fun anal toys – butt plugs, vibrators, & dildos to name a few. Learn more about how to explore anal play in this comprehensive guide!
Animal Play
Also known as pet play, this kink involves adopting the role of a creature e.g., a dog, cat, or pony. The most popular forms of pet play include pup, kitten, and pony play, but there are kinks for every creature of any kind (real or fantasy). Kinksters often wear masks, ears, and tails, and adopt the animalistic habits of their chosen animal. For example, pups may enjoy chasing a ball, receiving scratches, eating from a bowl on all fours, and obeying their handler’s orders. Interested in exploring pet play further? Check out this 101 guide on all things pet play!
Ass Worshiping
Submissive ass-worshipers love nothing more than planting their face between the ass cheeks of their Dom, and Doms love nothing more than to smother submissives with their ass cheeks. To take things further, the sub can show their devotion by licking and kissing. Doms enjoy smothering their submissives not only with their cheeks but also with their scent. Submissives have no choice but to be marked by the smell of their Doms until their Dom permits them to wash. BDSM outfits with crotch zippers are a must for any Mistress. As you can likely imagine, ass worship is a pleasurable activity for both Dom and submissive. Smothering and ass worship are taboo kinks that make it all the more exciting for all participants.
